i sent this a few weeks ago and just thought it was funny even tho its most liky true enjoy

Dear Deirdre,


What do you do when every girl in your life either treats you like the brother they never had or their best friend? In other words, why is it the nice guy that always gets over-looked or completely ignored?


Thanks,

Rich

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Dear Rich,


You should get together with Nice Man and form a club. Unfortunately, becoming just a friend or a brother-type is a rather common situation to end up in with girls. I know a lot of guys blame this unsatisfying outcome on being a nice guy, but I still refuse to believe that girls only go for the jerkiest of jerks. I do, however, believe that at a certain time in a girl's life, she goes through a somewhat rebellious stage, thus leading her blindly toward the more dangerous type of guy. It's the excitement of doing something bad, such as choosing a guy that maybe her parents might not approve of just because she can, that might give the villainous guy an edge over our heroic nice guys.


Let's try to analyze this. Girls seem to gravitate toward jerks, leaving the nice guys to play the role of confidant when the jerks break their hearts. Sounds like the typical scenario, right? But what attracts girls to the bad boys? It could be the thrill of danger, excitement, protection, and possibly the adventure of the chase. Bad boys tend to be more of a challenge to get than nice guys...they play the game and act aloof, as if they don't care, creating interest and the feeling of something to be conquered. Another reason girls go after the bad boys is because most bad boys are misunderstood and girls want to feel like they are the only one who understands them, making them special in the guys' eyes. Then they want to tame them, take care of them and ultimately be needed by the guys who need no one.


I do not in any way want to promote jerkiness among guys, but maybe as the nice guy, you could try to be slightly less available and leave a little mystery about yourself. If you can do all of this AND still be nice, I think you'll have to beat women off with a stick! A mysterious, strong, exciting guy who is nice?! That is Prince Charming in a nutshell.


Look at Peter Parker...he's a nice guy (albeit a crime-fighter with a rockin' body), and he snagged Mary Jane, even though he wasn't so sure he'd end up with her. Also, if you think about it, take a look at Jean Grey...though there was obvious attraction between her and Wolverine, she stayed with Cyclops. In a real-world scenario, Scott Summers would be the nice guy in this situation and Logan would be the bad-ass jerk. So, the good guy doesn't always lose out. (Granted, they're stories, but it can happen.)


Remember, the nice guy doesn't always lose out on getting the girl...sometimes he just has to keep his options open to more than one specific girl. After all, we don't all end up with the first person we fall for...that's why they call them crushes.


GECKO GEEK-OUT